Bret Stephenson's Acclaimed book on Adolescent Boys
(formerly published as Slaying the Dragon:
The Contemporary Struggle of Adolescent Boys--Modern Rules in an Ancient Game
)

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From Boys to Men:
Spiritual Rites of Passage in
an Indulgent Age

 

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Table of Contents and Endorsements below...


Table of Contents
Foreword by Stephen and Robin Larsen
Preface
Acknowledgments

Introduction
Are Our Kids Different? • The Lost Art of Initiation • The Kids Are Not Alright


1 Adolescence 101
Developmental Issues of Adolescent Boys • The Search For Identity • Individuation and Leave-Taking • Paradox and Abstraction • Egocentrism • Idealism • A Sense of Pride • Puberty • Sexuality • Non-Ordinary States of Consciousness • Ceremony & Ritual • The Labyrinth or the Maze?

2 The State of the Adolescent Nation

What the Heck Happened? • Them versus Us • Sobering Statistics • How Its Been Done Elsewhere

3 The Loss of Initiation
Adulthood versus Manhood • A Dubious Role • Adolescence is a Process, Not a Phase • Elders: The Missing Link • Where Are the Fathers? • The Burden of Single Moms • Life, Death, and Rebirth • Embracing Mystery • Ceremony and Ritual

4 Rites of Passage
The Essentials • Modern Developmental Thinking • Pseudo-Initiation • Public or Private?

5 The Hero’s Journey
An Archetypal Model for Rites of Passage • Stages of the Hero’s Journey • Refusing the Call to Adventure • Using the Hero’s Journey with Your Adolescent • The Hero’s Journey as a Treatment Model • The Hero’s Journey Continues

6 Modern Rules in An Ancient Game

Adolescence as a Cultural Shadow • Fatherlessness • ESL: Emotion as a Second Language • Education or Isolation? • School as Parent • Television as Parent, Teacher, Drug • Shifting Life Stages

7 Nuts and Bolts Approaches
The Brick Wall • Redefining Success • Communication Strategies • A Healthy Dose of Humor • What Really Changes Behavior? • The Importance of Consequences • Choices and Control • Some Rules about Making Rules • For Behavior Professionals

8 A Transpersonal Approach

Setting the Stage • Outdoor Rituals • Tapping Unconscious Imagery • Personal Mythologies • Writing Poetry and Lyrics • Storytelling • Bundles and Boxes • Creating Tangible Symbols • Putting It All Together

9 The Last Resort
The Facility • War Stories • What Behavior Management Doesn’t Teach

Afterword
Bibliography
Additional Suggested Readings
Index

 

Praise for From Boys to Men!

From Boys to Men is a crucial read for parents, teachers, grandparents, and everyone who makes policies about young men. Bret Stephenson, a noted authority in adolescent male development, begins his exciting book by explaining how our cultural erasure of an organized and ritualized male adolescence has done great harm to our children. Then he re-invents rites of passage and the rituals of male adolescence to fit our contemporary age. Stephenson is masterful in his presentation of how to help boys "slay the dragon" and thus find a contributive, healthy and successful manhood. I highly recommend this book!"
--Michael Gurian, Author of A FINE YOUNG MAN, THE WONDER OF BOYS and THE WONDER OF GIRLS

"[From Boys to Men] builds a much needed bridge between contemporary knowledge and the wisdom of indigenous elders. By utilizing tools that are familiar to the western experience and infusing them with ancestral spiritual wisdom you are inviting people to traverse the distance from the limitations of the known to the vast resources of the unknown."
--Malidoma Somé, Author OF WATER AND THE SPIRIT-Ritual, Magic, and Initiation in the Life of an
African Shaman; RITUAL: Power, Healing, and Community, and THE HEALING WISDOM OF AFRICA: Finding Life Purpose Through Nature, Ritual, and Community

"Bret Stephenson takes a hard look at how we are raising boys and explores
how ancient wisdom and traditional practices can be used to help adolescent
males become healthy young men and active members of the community."

Aaron Kipnis--Author of Angry Young Men; Knights Without Armor; Gender War-Gender Peace

“A brilliant and practical resource and guide for stewarding adolescent boys into responsible leadership
and manhood…a must for parents, teachers, leaders, and managers.”

--Angeles Arrien, Cultural Anthropologist, Author of THE FOUR-FOLD WAY and SIGNS OF LIFE

"Society needs to know these ideas and practices."
Ralph Metzner--Author of Maps of Consciousness, The Well of Remembrance, The Unfolding Self...

"This book fills an important psychological and mythological need of our time. Parents, Counselors and Educators could all profit by its commonsense and timeless wisdom. Stephenson takes the reader through this zone with expertise, compassion and some darned good storytelling!"
--Stephen Larsen, Ph.D. and Robin Larsen Ph.D
(Stephen Larsen is Professor Emeritus of Psychology (SUNY) and the author of THE SHAMAN'S DOORWAY and THE MYTHIC IMAGINATION, and with Robin, A FIRE IN THE MIND: THE LIFE OF JOSEPH CAMPBELL-THE AUTHORIZED BIOGRAPHY, and THE FASHIONING OF ANGELS, PARTNERSHIP AS SPIRITUAL PRACTICE. The Larsens co-direct the Center for Symbolic Studies, a 501 (c) (3) that works with Youth at Risk, as well as many educational programs for young artists, dancers and athletes.
(For full quote and book Preface, click here)

The issue of our neglected, abused, and misunderstood teenager is a major social issue as critical as any today and grievously ignored. Bret Stephenson makes a valuable contribution toward addressing this neglect. He offers a splendid and practical therapeutic approach societies have used for ages. An integral part of a young man's growth, rites of passage wisely targeted a developmental period which new research shows is as critical to ongoing development of intelligence as early infancy and childhood. From Boys to Men takes this ancient wisdom and updates it as fitting to our times and temperament. If the vast sums currently spent on trying to keep teenagers in a failed and punishing school system were spent on projects such as this, a major step toward social health would unfold. Stephenson deserves all the support we can give him. Buy his book, put it to use and spread the word.
--Joseph Chilton Pearce, author of Magical Child, The Biology of Transcendence, and From Magical Child to Magical Teen: A Guide to Adolescent Development

“Why does America insist on pumping billions of dollars into models for helping young men make the transition to adulthood? Stephenson says we have ignored the lessons of our many ancestors, who devised a strategy for that rite of passage and stuck with it. The author pieces together a wealth of information on ancient ritual and how corporate America has led the charge to abandon those rituals”
--YOUTH TODAY: The Newspaper on Youth Work (Oct. 2004)

 

 

 

Last Updated May 5, 2007